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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I won't ask.  But when I said I finally had to say "we are trying", I think it is relevant that my husband and I actually got pregnant within 2 years of getting married and within 4 years of beginning our relationship.  So my frustration with my family was that they wanted a honeymoon baby and I wanted a little married life before kids.  I basically got home from the honeymoon and the henpecking started.  Little did I know that I actually couldn't have gotten pregnant at that time.  I only learned about the fertility issues after trying for a while (cuz that is how it works).

[b] I am just reminded of the thread on here a few weeks ago where a person without kids asked about people being hostile to people who don't want kids.  I am not hostile but I just wonder if they have made a choice--it is normal to wonder.  They have been together a long time and they aren't getting any younger.  [/b]

As I said, I won't ask and whoever said if I have to ask if it is ok, then it probably isn't, is right. [/quote]

And you are perpetuating the kind of societal pressure that people who are together a long time cannot be fully fulfilled as human beings or adults until they breed.

Stop.

If you feel that you were bullied into having children by your family, then I'm sorry. But that says more about your relationship with your family than one thread will probably allow. Because I know where that behaviour would end with me, and when. I'll give you a hint: the first and only time they would have asked.

Your extended family is living their lives as they see fit. It has NOTHING to do with you. Or how you were treated. Or what you wonder. Or how you think they should conduct themselves.

It has nothing to do with you.

Let me repeat: it had nothing to do with you. [/quote]

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