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OP, your husband has flexible hours too, don't let him kid you. If he can take all this time off to be with his family of orgin, he does indeed have flexible hours. Here's what I'd do. First, tell him he is not to snap at you or the kids. Screaming at you and/or the baby is unacceptable, it doesn't matter how stressed he is. Second, he needs therapy, not random therapy, he needs to talk with a therapist who is skilled at whatever is causing his sibling's near death. Many many families have issues like this. Many people loose someone in ways they wish they hadn't well before that person is expected to die. If the sibling is near death due to cancer, he needs a therapist skilled in that. If it's a long decline after years of diabetes, that is a different skill set. If it's drugs or alcohol, that too is different. If it's after a sudden accident, that again is different from all the rest. As for you, you do not need to pick up extra duties at home. Take care of yourself and your child because that is what women and moms do. If you need to work different hours so you aren't overtaxed, do that. Tell husband he is responsible for getting the child to daycare and/or hiring someone to come to the house. I say it this way because you do need to pick up your child at the end of the day. You have far more wiggle room in the morning as counterintuitive as that sounds. I would also not hesitate to mention to your husband that you have divorce as an option. If he refuses to be nice and/or to seek appropriate therapy, you will have all the hardships of being a single mom, and all of the hardships of being married. Why you'd agree to this is beyond me. To the people saying "this is temporary" all of life is temporary. It doesn't give anybody the right to slack off at work, at home, and to be an asshole. Your husband has gone way beyond the "bad day" stage, and is not seeking appropriate help for the pain he is experiencing. [/quote]

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