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Oh, dear OP, this was very nearly me a few years ago. I feel your pain. 
Do whatever it takes not to move out until you think it through and lawyers can advise you. 
Can you reason with your husband? Living as room-mates until your situation stabilizes? It's terrible to have to depend on him for a green card at this time.

Stay strong, OP. Hugs to you!
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Thank you!
How did you figure it out, if you don't mind sharing?[/quote]

Well, we reconciled. And actually afterward we discovered there was an impediment to the green card application, so we still don't have it!
Your life here can be so tenuous when you're here on a visa. I'm so sorry you're going through this.

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Thank you for your support.
Is it a "through marriage" GC or the one you get through your employer? If it's ok to ask
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It's an employer's green card. We need a waiver for the green card which my husband cannot get from his employer.

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thank you!
His employer has not actually even filed yet! That's why I am wondering if it is even worth it... our home life was never perfect (esp. post-child). I was afraid to divorce because at first the baby was small...then we started this green card quest...then he suddenly changed jobs...I tried to fix it but it's getting harder.[/quote]

So at this point he's not willing to try? 
Sometimes a separation can be used for thinking through those things, and perhaps you could agree to a trial separation of one month, that you could spend at your relatives? Not ideal for school, I know, and it depends if you can trust him up to a point. We spent 2 years in marital difficulties, and I have to say I took the initiative on many things. My husband didn't know how to even start fixing our marriage, but was willing to talk about it, but not go to counseling. Basically we learned how to communicate better: he learned how to articulate his feelings and needs, and find empathy words on cue. I learned how to put emotions aside and discuss things rationally.
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Yes he is not willing to try.
It is too difficult for me to move back and forth so he "can think about those things", if he wanted a break he could move out temporarily. 
i need to decide something more or less permanently
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