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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]... I'm too lazy to ever make it there, and have little desire to put in the hours needed.

... But, in my heart, as I sit here making marshmallows in the fire with my children, I don't know that I have the mental and emotional fortitude to do it. I just don't think I'm a strong enough person, even if there's a part of me that wishes I was. And perhaps, I even feel like it's my masculinity in question: society says a man should "provide" and in DCs particularly fucked socioeconomics it seems all that much more pressing.

This thread is helping me sort through my emotions a lot, thanks. [/quote]

I'm PP who gave the detailed response. I so get it (although I'm a woman, so not the masculinity thing) - I recently went through a similar soul searching when offered a job with a huge pay bump, increase in visibility, and basically the required step if I'm ever going to move up to the executive level. I ended it turning it down and staying in my "cushy" job, and in the 5 months since I've turned it down, I have been SO glad - as I've been hit with two illnesses, a family member died and my husband is the executor, etc.

Being willing to take on 80 hours a week doesn't make you a strong person. Going for the top of the corporate ladder doesn't make you strong. Having the courage to live a life that is authentic to what you really enjoy and where you are truly happy is what takes strength. For some people, that IS pursuing that hard-charging career. But it doesn't sound like that's what it is for you, and that is just fine. I'm not one to say "On your death bed, you'll wish you worked less." You're equally strong as someone who goes all out in their career, you just have different aspirations. It doesn't matter how fast you climb the ladder if it's not reaching a destination where you'd feel happy.

There is so, so much value in lots of down time, a good work-life balance, flexibility, etc. You have got the best of both worlds right now with $200k and 40 hours a week. Unless your heart is really in the hard-charging career path, the strongest thing you can do is to be true to your real desires, not what society tells you is "the good life."

I hope this helps. Stay true to your deepest, true feelings in your gut - whatever they are. [/quote]

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