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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sorry, OP, that's tough. But, I actually doubt it has anything to do with you. The lack of relationship with the children and failure to invite to family events suggests to me that the issue is between her and her brother. If it was just that she didn't like you, she'd still want to see her brother and his kids.

Have you ever asked your husband about it? What was their relationship like before you came around?

Anyway, I'd stop reaching out. I think it's clear she's not interested in a relationship with you, but my gut is that it's because of your husband, not you. If anyone should reach out to her, it should be her brother. [/quote]

My SILs are like this.  DH can't do enough for one of them.  DH finally blamed me for laying off SIL (from his company) - because the company execs wanted it so much, yet he still needed a scapegoat (long story, there is abuse in his family).  He needed an excuse, so I told him to use me.  But I think the SILs had issues with me before that.

Are you very different from them, OP (mentally, physically, upbringing, more)?  Do you think they are threatened by that?

I feel bad for DH, because MIL encourages any hard feelings.  They try to come across as one way, but instead, come across as cold, calculating, insulated and antagonistic. My family is completely different, so it took some getting used to - though I don't know if I will ever be accustomed to it, it's draining.  MIL does a lot of things for bragging rights, and just is not into anything with her heart.  It's kind of depressing.

DH gets left out of everything.  One year, they booked an extra beach week, purposefully not telling DH.  This year, they ignored DH's texts, emails, and voicemails to join in on MIL's birthday celebration.  Of course they flaunt it afterward.  It's bad.

Point is, it probably is not you, OP.  The situation existed years before you, I would bet.  It did not matter who you were, they were going to find fault.  [/quote]

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