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I read him the riot act. Seriously.

It happened recently, when a friend we had invited, who knows very well that we keep a shoeless house, ran across the whole first floor chasing after the kids in play. He had forgotten, which once in a while is not a huge deal for me.

But DH, who never likes to host, was super grumpy about it and blamed this whole incident on me, pulled his immature blackmail such as "I'm not helping you clean up", etc. Boy was he in trouble the next few days after that!

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I'm the PP who wrote the above. My kids are 4 and 9. There is a difference between enforcing house rules and not being welcoming. In my circle, all the parents have the following rules:
- eat only at the table.
- wash your hands before and after eating.
- don't play on the stairs
- don't closed door
- say hello, please, thank you and goodbye
- share toys

Sometimes you do have to clean up before your guests leave. Sometimes you do have to discipline one or more kids. But the point is to do it gracefully.
There are children whose behavior is so out of order that I would never welcome them into my house. Therefore, I don't invite random parents and kids from school that I don't know at all. I hang around at drop off or pick-up to see what the kid is like, or try to talk with the parents. Our playdates have all gone smoothly, apart from that one little boy who tried to rappel from the upper landing and left a permanent mark on the railing - but in light of what could have happened, no big deal!

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