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[quote=Anonymous][quote]I was recently out on a christmas party with people from work and met a couple that I became desperately envious of. I wouldn't say that had it all, so to speak, but what they did have was a wife who was very good to her husband. Understanding, kind, loving, respectful. Qualities that I wish I had in my marriage. [/quote]

Did you try talking to your wife? Not arguing, just talking. Seeing where she is in her concept of her life? How she thinks things are going?

I bring that up because I started out very happy in our relationship, and then I got kind of mean for a while.  It was after our baby was born, and I was constantly frustrated by work, life demands, my husband not taking responsibility for things.  I didn't want to be playful and kindness wasn't the first thing that came to mind because I was looking at thousands of little reminders every day about how little I could control and how futile everything felt. So even nice requests - "how come we don't go out an have fun anymore?" became fights because I was frustrated looking at a trainwreck house, doing double shift with the kid, and working 70 hour weeks (for no real reason, boss was a micromanager.)

I say all that to say - check in with your wife. Our relationship improved when life improved - hubs started taking more responsibility around the house, I quit the job that was stressing me out and found another one that is much more low key, the baby got older and more independent. It's not quite where it was but we both understand each other's needs a lot more and work harder on making it happen.  Good luck.[/quote]

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