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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I didn't read through all of the posts, but here are a few thoughts.

1)  It's probably not a good idea to do any drastic change while you are still grieving.  They say when a person loses a spouse, they should wait a year before making any big changes to be sure they do it with a clear head.  I think that you should at least give yourself some more time to grieve the loss of your child before making any big decisions -- that includes having another child.

2)  So make sure you are using birth control because it doesn't sound like you are in a good place in your marriage or in your own emotional state to have a baby.

I actually think it is irresponsible to try to have a child if you suspect BEFORE having the child that the marriage isn't going to work out and you will be an unhappy single mom "tethered" to someone who might be a borderline abusive parent.

3)  You mention a therapist, but I didn't see any mention of a psychiatrist.  It sounds like you are very depressed, and while therapy is good, you might benefit short term from some sort of medication to at least help lift you out of the deep pit of despair you seem to be in.  If you haven't already done so, schedule an appointment for a psychiatrist.

4)  I don't agree that singledom is anathema to this world.  There are plenty of adult women who are single and happy.  The divorce rate is, what, 50 percent?  So unless you have issues dating a divorced man, it just isn't true that there won't be single men to date as you get older.

I have seen countless posts on DCUM alone of women who say they are happier alone and divorced than they were in an unhappy marriage.  So if you find that your marriage can't be improved, that your husband is abusive -- physically or emotionally -- don't stay just out of fear of being alone.

But seriously, before making any big decisions, see a psychiatrist.  It sounds like you need some immediate help.  Therapy is great, but it is a long-term solution.  Sometimes people are in such a huge pit of depression that they need medication to at least get them to a place where the depression is at least lifted enough so that they can think clearly and then work on the long-term things.

Best of luck.  Grief and depression make everything look hopeless.  But it isn't hopeless.  [/quote]

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