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[quote=Anonymous]I did date a woman - never married, no children - who lived with her parents for a few years in her late 30s-early 40s.  I would say this is a red flag, though, particularly post-recession, multi-generational living is becoming more common again.  I don't think it used to be all that uncommon.   This woman was nice, but...was pretty gunshy (for no discernable reason) and not only were Mom & Dad kind of everpresent, but Jesus seemed to be along on dates as well.

Personally, I stopped living with either parent after I went off to college at 17, and I'd be homeless or live in a tent before I moved back in with them.  But that's more a function of my specific relationship with them than of any general case.

I would see it as a yellow, or caution flag - I'd look long and hard at how enmeshed they are in her life and how emotionally independent she is.  The car is a complete red herring, and has nothing to do with how successful she is.  It's easy to be a nice used car when that's your only payment, even easier when mom & dad buy it for you.

I had a terrible, disastrous relationship with another woman (not the above) who didn't live with her parents and hadn't in years, but was deeply emotionally enmeshed  - particularly with her crazy (literally, had a diagnosis) mother - and it was horrific.  They were in every aspect of our lives.  [/quote]

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