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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]For things I don't want to talk about, I try to just change the conversation without responding at all. I find that it stresses me out more to try to have a canned response.  Plus, my MIL really does just want to talk, so it's better if I can find a subject that we both are interested in.

For things she wants to do that I don't find acceptable (like give the toddler whole apples) I have to be extremely firm and say "No, only cut apples" and physically interject myself if necessary. (Not like pushing and shoving, but I have had to take an apple out of her hands before.)  It is very important to be very clear here - people like my MIL and your ILs take any sort of discussion or ambiguity as an opening to continue trying to get what they want. So you have to shut them down as firmly as possible. [/quote]

Forgot to add - for those few subjects that I REALLY cannot tolerate talking about with MIL, such as my hair, clothes, and weight loss/weight gain, I have just told her outright "Please don't discuss that with me." And she got the message and does not touch on those subjects. [/quote]

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