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[quote=Anonymous]Congratulations on your weight loss.

For me, it would depend on the person.  I'm a (female) daily exerciser who tends not to be attracted to heavier people (I don't trend toward skinny-minnies either - just normal bodies in decent shape.)  My concern would be how and why they gained weight in the first place and how and why they lost it.  If they have disordered eating patterns because of emotional issues and childhood baggage, something could trigger that and it would start up again.

I'm also not the most supportive person when it comes to diets - I think people should eat reasonably and exercise, and one of my dealbreakers is someone who has a million restrictions on what they can/will eat, because it makes going out to dinner (which I love) an exercise in futility and irritation.

So you would need to avoid (a) foodies, and (b) people who tend not to be attracted toward heavier people. And (c) people who spend a lot of time in the gym or who are very controlling about their own calories, unless it's because they themselves have lost weight.

Some people just don't care about weight that much.  My brother is one of those people - he's a lean, in-shape (good-looking) guy who married a heavier woman. Her weight has fluctuated and he doesn't really seem to care either way.  And my friend J - who is athletic and active but very heavy - married a skinny guy who started out fat and lost a bunch.  He is cool with her being heavier.[/quote]

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