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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm no expert, but for one, these aren't grandpas unless you choose to call them that.  Even if your mom were stably married you don't need to call them grandpas.

I'd go with "This is Grandpa and this is Mr. James"  Your kids can interact with Mr James as a family friend, and if he disappears, it isn't a death -- we all change friends.

I'm not trying to be dismissive -- I agree that having a mom with a personality issue like this can make it hard for young kids.  But I think trying to keep a lighter frame on the situation might ease some of your stress.  And if your mom protests, just point out that the real grandpa is their biological one and that while you love Mr James -- he is sooo great -- he should have a different name than grandpa for the grandkids.
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I agree, but I was flamed in another thread for distinguishing between biological and non biological grandparents. Meanwhile I'm stuck having my kids call a non biological grandparent Grandma and my parents, their biological grandparents, had to come up with special nicknames without grandma or grandpa in them because it was going to be too confusing because of the extra ones. If the grandpas are going through a revolving door, just refer to them how you refer to them, by their first name or maybe nothing at all.  Your kid is not going to even know who is who for several years.[/quote]

If you are who I think you are, you were flamed not for distinguishing between biological and non biological grandparents, but for using the fact that a loving and stable grandmother figure was only a "step" as a way to diminish her importance in your children's lives, and to justify your own jealousy and insecurity.  If you're someone else, I apologize.  [/quote]

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