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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm with DH on this one. You had a plan in place and then you, unilaterally, changed it without asking him. It doesn't matter that you see them all the time, etc.

The major error here was in not talking to DH about it first before you told your family it was OK. If you had, you two could have come up with a solution he was on board with and could have better sold it to his family.[/quote]

Pretty true here.  Unilateral decisions aren't good ones.

How do you and DH feel, vs your parents and his parents?  Are you frustrated you can't visit with your family more?  Is there a way to get more time with them?  Is he frustrated that all the time with his family is short and wants a few days with them over the holidays?

Figure this out between the two of you first.  It sounds like both your parents and your ILs will complain regardless, and I think you and DH need a plan to anklet that too, which each of you telling both sets that you're doing the best you can, that you love them, and that hearing these complaints makes you feel like they don't appreciate the time you do have to offer.[/quote]

OP here. I'm extremely frustrated not getting to see my family more. But it was my choice in moving here far from them. I also shouldn't hold it against DH's family that they live closer and we can see them more often. Our normal compromise is that we see DH's family for 90% of holidays (but rarely use annual leave), but every other Christmas when we see my family we travel for 9 days (to make the tickets worth it). DH's family hasn't ever stayed at our home, but my parents do visit us a few times a year and stay with us. [/quote]

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