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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]BTW - OP I love your thread title. They are indeed Master Contrarians. :)[/quote]

Many years experience talking, unfortunately.  Isn't it true?  OP here.  Thanks so much from the supportive PPs who have offered their experience.  When you live with them, it can be torture.  I am talking about every day things that should not be exhausting, but are: "Oh, there's a parking space!" while DH travels past a few, driving far too fast, and seemingly faster, as you point out the empty spaces in the parking garage.  Inevitably, we park furthest from the destination, as some sort of convoluted message ("FU!!!")  What did *I* do to prompt such behavior?  I will never know, but I know it was not anything I did.  I suspect it is genetics (thanks PPs for confirming this - it is definitely DHs mother) and whatever perceived slights before me. He has a great life - he has nothing to bitch about!  I want to scream this.

I am trying to think of other examples, usually having to do with the kids.  Who are growing, and see the tension.  Choices we make for them are on the same page, but then he will suddenly get stuck on something so tiny, and make it HUGE. Of course, then it becomes an issue, when it never should be.

He also has trouble sticking up for the right thing; he has a problem with bullies in his life; he has a problem saying no.  Even when he realizes from the beginning, that the other person is 180 degrees off.  Triangulating is a past time for him.  Again, his mother is (in)famous for this.

I feel like I am taking all of his therapy over the years (it never sticks), piecing it together, and trying to explain as best I can.  At least if I feel I am not alone.....  [/quote]

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