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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP doesn't seem young but plain old resentful. She and DH waited to have kids and now she expects the grandparents to have the same relationship that they started with the other grandkids 20 years ago.

Ain't gonna happen. Grandparents are older, tired. [b]It's not their fault they don't feel as close to a 2 year old as their 22 year old grandson[/b]. And my guess is that they like their own daughters more than OP, go figure.[/quote]

I've been thinking about this and how different the sets of grandchildren must feel to OP's ILs.  My parents are still young and being with my daughter, the first grandkid, makes them feel younger. They have no trouble envisioning themselves at events like graduations, my dad has even said his goal is to dance at her wedding. That's what these older grandkids were to OP's ILs.  OPs kids, though, coming as their own health starts failing, just remind them of how much of their lives they'll miss.  They know for sure the older kids will remember them--no such guarantee that OP's kids will, even if they did have the energy or resources to throw themselves into the grandparent thing like OP wants them to do. That can't be easy to face. [/quote]

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