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[quote=Anonymous]I was like that (except a bit better of a housekeeper).  It changed enormously once my kids were all in school full-time.  Honestly, being at home with toddlers and infants is an all-consuming, life-sucking, thankless job.

If I were you, I'd encourage her to consider a part-time job.  You may find that once she gets out of the house and back to work with adult company, that she gets more motivated.

Going back full-time right now probably seems like too much of a burden to her.  I'd push for a part-time job in a field that she likes (even if it isn't as lucrative as you might want).  Once she realizes that life can be better, her prior motivation might kick back in.  My guess is that she is exhausted and defeated by life at the moment.

Another thing you might try is having her take a class a couple of nights a week.  I realize that adds to your own duties as a parent.  When I was at home all day, I put everything in to being a mom. I forgot to foster my own growth as a person.  It was almost as if I felt that I wasn't valuable enough to pursue anything just for me.  The change came for me when I found a class and activity that made me really happy.  I felt guilty about taking time for myself.  I had to realize that if I wasn't taking care of myself, I wasn't really taking the best care of everyone else. [/quote]

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