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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote] You need to take a hard look at yourself, too, OP. If she worked, would you truly pull your weight, missing work for appointments and sick kids, doing pickup and dropoff, etc.? Because if you won't, and you didn't back when she was working, then it's going to be really hard for her to find a job that accommodates her doing all that stuff. [/quote]

I actually did and really enjoyed being more involved. I did drop offs and had a job that was more family friendly (I left it to make more because I am the sole earner which sucks but is what it is). I am really hands on even now. I just find the whole being a SAHM thing to make the working parent's life easier to not at all be true in my experience. I am contributing by working and spending every minute until the kids are sleeping contributing (I don't take breaks at night since I consider the flexibility of working -- where you get breaks -- to be enough for me). I actually felt tmy marriage was stronger when we both worked and both parented together. Everything is just so lopsided right now. That's the best way I can describe it.

I get your point about time and patience. I am going to try to focus on that.

As for the preschool thing, it's a non-negotiable for the kids' benefit. We both agree on it initially although I am starting to see pangs of regret on my wife's end. I think it's truly the best for the kids and keeping our younger out of school (because he's the baby) is almost selfish and stunting and unfair that the child. I haven't stood up for much with all of this, but it's the one stand I am absolutely sticking to (and one I have been vocal and open about forever).

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Glad you get it.  I agree that kids get a lot out of preschool.  But how would it work, then, with your current job that is less family friendly?  Would you change jobs?  You and your wife need to go to therapy and talk this all out.[/quote]

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