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[quote=Anonymous]Another vote for the timing. I think you just need to accept the fact that your kids will have a different type of relationship with the grandparents.

It can be hard for you to watch, since you lived through the earlier grandchildren and saw how much easier it was for younger, healthier people to engage with their grandkids, but try not to let this knowledge taint the good (but different) relationship your kids CAN have with grandparents. They only have their own experience, so try to not constantly compare.

It's interesting that you bring this up, because I think there is going to be a similar dynamic in my family, only I'm on the other side. There is a 10 year gap between my kids (twins) and the next grandchild. Both my parents and my ILs were 55-57 when my kids were born, and now with this newest grandkid, they are 65-67. Think about that difference in age. We are lucky that all four grandparents are still relatively healthy, but they are still older and have less energy. I have no doubt that the love they feel for this newest grandkid is just as great as the love they have for my two, but I also have no doubt it will be a different relationship.

My ILs took my kids to Disney World 3 years ago. Just grandparents and kids--DH and I stayed home. This newest grandkid won't be old enough to have a meaningful trip to Disney World for at least another 4 years, minimum. When this kid is old enough to go to Disney World, my ILs will be 70-71, and they will be on a fixed income (FIL was still working until retirement this year.)

So, it seems entirely probable that there is not going to be a grandparent trip to Disney World in store for this newest grandchild.
I can see someone posting on DCUM now. "Grandparents only took 2 grandkids to Disney World, nothing for other grandkids!" Outrage! But when you pull back and look at the whole picture, you see it not that simple. [/quote]

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