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[quote=Anonymous]My DH does this, though similar to 22:32 prob not 3-5 per night. Some nights, yes. Some nights, only 2, and some nights none. He used to drink a lot more in terms of binging on weekends, so in many ways this is an improvement.

I'm personally of the view that drinking literally every day is not a good thing, but am working on accepting that he feels differently. The money also bugs me. I pick battles though and the one I pick is when his behavior changes. Even after just a couple, frequently I do pick up a change in demeanor and whatever the mood was gets magnified, so bad moods are worse, good moods are hyper good (and annoying), feelings are hurt more easily, temper is shorter, etc. I don't like it. The tack I've taken recently is to point out that our kids, who are young now, will notice in the future and then it won't just be me "nagging."I don't think he wants that but I guess we'll see.

I also drink a fair amt myself so maybe I can relate. I periodically fall into a half-bottle of wine/night habit, which is something like 3 glasses. I have never taken "nips" at work, and agree again with 22:32 that that's pretty eyeroll-worthy.

Anyway, I would suggest picking what really bugs you most and trying to address that. It's probably how he treats you and/or the personality change and that's totally fair. I've said before things like, I'm telling you I don't like how you act and isn't that enough? And he has acknowledged, yes it is. We're working on it. [/quote]

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