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[quote=Anonymous]OP, my responses isn't about finances but about the psychological blow of not making partner that you didn't mention (and if it's not an issue, please ignore this post )...
When I was a child, my dad was told he was not going to make partner of his NY firm. It was a kind of "Political" environment from what I understand. He left, then He went in-house to a company, then to a suburban firm. After another decade or so at the second firm, during which he did actually become partner, he was appointed a judge, and served respectably on the bench for 2 decades.
At a  "collective" memorial service his courthouse held for him and local lawyers who'd passed away in 2013, I was touched by all that came out to show gratitude for how my father had touched their lives, and that continues to inspire me daily.
But I wanted to share with you the eulogy made by another lady on behalf of her husband who was being memorialized. She served as his secretary and was pregnant when he was starting out/launching his sole practice. A young man came to the firm with huge "issues" as she put it, and later as her husband walked the man out, he assured he'd help him and not to worry about payment. The wife questioned her husband afterwards--was he crazy to not charge payment? They were having a baby, etc! The husband replied something to the effect of , "if I can't help someone in need, I shouldn't be in this business."  The young man over time became a grateful--and paying--client, and the wife learned and appreciated her husband even more. She told this story in front of the audience and her then-grown sons and told everyone she wanted them to know and be proud of their father for his legacy, which included this attitude towards helping others. All of us strangers were totally moved.
So I include this story because I know the financial part is a huge worry at the moment and I don't mean to minimize that--I know others will pipe in with practical suggestions on that but I wanted to offer some moral support along the lines that there is life after making partner and there are things that kids can appreciate about their dad's work even if he is not always a high-roller.[/quote]

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