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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Misery loves company...

Just wondering if anyone has surprising tension/annoyances/distance with their own mom after becoming a mother themselves. My own mom (I thought) is an independent, well-adjusted, fun to be around person. Ever since I had a baby, she's been distant and most disappointing to me, less than interested in being a grandma. Not completely disinterested, but [b]not a warm fuzzy grandma type[/b]. [b]Really doesn't ask questions about the baby,[/b] and just mentions how tough she had it as a single mother when I was a baby. Okay, I get how hard it was for her back then... but can we enjoy the joy this new baby is bringing to our family?

[b]I'm at the point where I'm minimizing time spent with her[/b] because it's so awkward/forced. I never would have guessed this would be the case before I had my baby, although looking back on it, she was distant during my pregnancy, too.

My inlaws aren't exactly grandparents of the year, either, [b]so I guess I'm feeling a little sorry for myself and bummed at the seemingly lost opportunity for grandma bonding for my mom and my baby.[/b][/quote]

Who cares if she's not warm and fuzzy.  You're having a pity party for yourself.  Deliberately minimizing contact at the same time lamenting a lost opportunity makes no sense  It's passive aggressive and a great way to create your own drama.  Babies also aren't toys to be taken away for behavior you don't like.  Grow up.[/quote]

NP here. Sounds like someone's bitch mother is reading this thread and it's hitting a nerve. Yes, well, we need you to be at least warm around the kids and if you are creating tension, I have and will keep my kids away from your angry personality and your weird need to be the center of attention to the exclusion of your grandchildren.[/quote]

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