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[quote=Anonymous]OP I have nothing but sympathy.  My relationship with my mom has been strained/distant at best and I was hoping that DC#1 would improve it (at least give us something to talk about, lol).  nope.
she is dumfounded by some of our choices like living in a house/neighborhood we can afford, cloth diapering, babywearing, paying more for GOOD meat, etc.
she cannot understand why I don't want to drop everything and drive 2 states away to spend a weekend with them, attending brunches and happy hours, with a baby/toddler/preschooler.  I woh all week, as did she, not sure what is hard to understand.
she professes to be GM of the year, but does not actually want to spend time with DC.  Another recent thread described it as wanting the kids presented in spotless white for one hour, after which cocktail hour would resume.  That is what both my parents seem to want, which dumbfounds me b/c they were both very hands-on, get down on the floor and play with the kids kind of parents.

But the kicker in the relationship has been the fact that DH and I are putting DC's interests first.  We have a relative with very violent, drug addicted tendencies and for various reasons (after years of outbursts and "incidents" and medication and therapy and felony charges for god's sake) we've decided it's in our best interests that DC not be around this person.  My parents cannot fathom this attitude.  So... happy thanksgiving :-)  I'll be spending it with my in-laws, who are quirky but fun and extremely low-drama.
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