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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Misery loves company...

Just wondering if anyone has surprising tension/annoyances/distance with their own mom after becoming a mother themselves. My own mom (I thought) is an independent, well-adjusted, fun to be around person. Ever since I had a baby, she's been distant and most disappointing to me, less than interested in being a grandma. Not completely disinterested, but [b]not a warm fuzzy grandma type[/b]. [b]Really doesn't ask questions about the baby,[/b] and just mentions how tough she had it as a single mother when I was a baby. Okay, I get how hard it was for her back then... but can we enjoy the joy this new baby is bringing to our family?

[b]I'm at the point where I'm minimizing time spent with her[/b] because it's so awkward/forced. I never would have guessed this would be the case before I had my baby, although looking back on it, she was distant during my pregnancy, too.

My inlaws aren't exactly grandparents of the year, either, [b]so I guess I'm feeling a little sorry for myself and bummed at the seemingly lost opportunity for grandma bonding for my mom and my baby.[/b][/quote]

Who cares if she's not warm and fuzzy.  You're having a pity party for yourself.  Deliberately minimizing contact at the same time lamenting a lost opportunity makes no sense  It's passive aggressive and a great way to create your own drama.  Babies also aren't toys to be taken away for behavior you don't like.  Grow up.[/quote]

Obviously you have not experienced anything that OP or the pps are relating to in this thread so maybe you should stop trolling around.  take your own advice and "grow up."[/quote]

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