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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Aww honey.  It's a really hard time in a marriage.  It is really hard when the baby is in a mommy phase.  Perhaps that is hurting your husband's feelings more than he lets on?  Or he may just be feeling bad about himself and counterproductively flailing.  Does he seem depressed?

It sounds like both of you need a break-- from the kid and from each other.  You are flailing and struggling and you need a breather to gather your thoughts.  Can you carve out a set weekly time for each of you to get a break?  For example, in our house I get Saturday mornings (DH takes DC grocery shopping) and DH gets Sunday mornings.  It's a little oasis for each of us.  Cut out some obligations from your life, if you can, and focus on getting enough rest.

I would encourage you to hang in there.  Little kids are tough on a marriage, especially if you haven't been married long, but you can ride it out.  [/quote]

I think this is wise advice.[/quote]

Ditto.  Great advice.  Little kids are HARD.  Just ride out the storm for a couple of years and do your best to stay connected .  You and DH are exhausted.  Of course you are acting jerky towards one another!  [/quote]

Our DD was born right around the time of our first wedding anniversary, so we were barely married before pregnancy/baby came our way. We were together 5 years before marriage. It is a really hard time. I built up a lot of resentment towards DH and am still trying to shed it. It made me dislike him, lose respect for him, lose my attraction for him, you name it. Around DD's 2nd birthday, we made some lifestyle changes and DD was so much more engaging and awesome - and all of a sudden things started to improve. It can happen and there is a way back. Hang in there! And keep talking to him. In my view, better to tell him how you're feeling, even if it starts a fight, than to go silent. [/quote]

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