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[quote=Anonymous]So many great responses here!  I grew up with many living grandparents (multiple generations, remarriages, etc.) located near to me and providing some child care.  I am not close to any of them.  I don't dislike them, I just ... don't really care.  So it was hard for me to understand or sympathize with people who went on about fostering the grandparent relationship.  Then I had my own kid and I adore seeing my DD with my own parents: my heart just bursts seeing them have fun together.  I don't feel exactly the same way about my ILs -- there's baggage there and MIL does that possessive "my baby" act which really puts my hackles up -- but they are loving and generous and DD has a great time with them too.  It makes everybody happy.

Also, as a PP said, free help is a life-saver and will cause parents to forgive a lot of grandparent quirks.

I think a lot of the conflict comes out of people (mostly grandparents, IME) phrasing the issue as one of rights and access.  Most of conflicts I've had regarding "access" by DD's grandparents involved their putting pressure on our schedule, trying to make their priorities into ours.  DH and I work, and we'd like to spend time with DD too; we have chores and errands; DD has a nap and bedtime schedule.  The perfect holiday dinner, or family photo, or visit with Great Aunt Tilda who's only in town for a day, is just not our priority in the limited time we have.  But when grandparents meet us halfway -- or more than halfway -- there's no problem.  [/quote]

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