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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would say no. Sorry, but your kids are more important than this young girl's feeling. And your brother is being a big baby. He needs to understand that the kids need time to adjust and that you don't want to introduce them to new "family members" before some time has passed. Geez. I can't imagine why people would suck it up in this case. 22 years old??? That is bad for your kids to even see. If they get married or have children, you won't have a choice. Be really nice about this and say that you are very concerned about the kids. [/quote]

And one more thing, I would absolutely continue to invite the ex partner to see the children whenever he wants to. [/quote]

This.  If your oldest was 2 my answer might be different, but 5 is old enough to see this stuff and make impressions of the world from it.  So you will either (a) sanction throwing over your partner for an affair / a complete lack of commitment in your relationships, or (b) have conversations about how people we love do horrible things that we don't approve of but we still love them.  And while (b) could actually be good, I'm not sure how you make that the take home message rather than (a) if you tacitly support your brothers new relationship mere weeks after the breakup.

What a mess. Sorry OP.

Also? Agree with the posters saying your brother needs to grow the hell up.  If he is so unhappy in his relationship then yes, breakup. But deal with that relationship ending before just starting up with your new fling. People and relationships shouldn't be treated as disposable, and I sure as hell don't want my kids to think they are.

And to that end. I would absolutely reach out to the Ex.  After 10 years I'm sure you all have relationships directly with him aside from your brother, and your brother doesn't have the right to unilaterally end all the collateral relationships.[/quote]

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