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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not saying it's your place to blow up a larger family relationship, but if you're confident in the conclusion, this guy is a monster. Like as bad as a human being get. And if he operates in a community and gets the chance to sneak something with some other kid just as innocent as yours he will take it. I guess what I'm saying is, I would not opt for simply avoiding or minimizing contact as others have suggested. He would be forcefully confronted. [/quote]

Playing devils advocate . . . To what end would this confrontation be expected to lead? What would be the goal? If it's to extract a confession - unlikely. If it's to get him arrested - depends on whether the cousin is willing to pursue it and whether the statute of limitations has passed.

I'm not sure what the best thing is to do here, but i don't see any simple, clearly right way to handle this with respect to the uncle. Other than the obvious, don't leave any kids alone with him. [/quote]

Well at a minimum he would know he's been exposed, and his wife and entire extended family would know about it. Even if the wife doesn't believe it (or doesn't acknowledge believing it), it will be a permanent question mark that will hopefully have her guard up in the future. And if she's honest with herself I seriously doubt this will be a surprise. But just as important as the practical mitigation of risk that it happens again or that he has access to family members is that this guy doesn't deserve to feel like he got away with it. He doesn't get to have everyone ignore it or look the other way and go to his grave reputation and community standing intact. He deserves to have all of that blow up and live out his days with that shame. [/quote]

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