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[quote=Anonymous]OP here.

I guess I should see a therapist to get some help. What is the name of the service so I can look up. I am not from DC.

Btw DH's first language is not English but certainly way better than me. He said he was in my shoes (language skill) 14 years ago and he tried very hard to get to this point and he can communicate comfortably in English. Therefore, I am totally able to do it if I want to. It is just that I don't try hard enough, he said.

The 2 main problem is my communication and my behavior which I don't even know how or when it gets better. I have no problem communicating with my coworkers. The 2 best co-worker friends I talk to at my office said they have no problem understand me. They said sometimes I seem struggling but they don't have problem verify it or they can see and help me out with the word choices. They are female though. Don't know if it makes the difference.

I am aware of my language barrier but other than practicing and continue communicating in English, I don't know what else I can do. I don't think taking English class will help much, plus I don't have time for that. I don't even have time to take courses for my career's improvement. About my behavior, that is even harder to change.   :!:

I told DH I don't like he does xyz when he is angry. He said if I don't push his button then it won't happen. Then I said there was time I wasn't the cause of his angry and he still did xyz. He said "Yes, I regret it though but when I get to that point, it is hard to control. It is the same as you.You turn silent and aren't able to control your speech (I don't talk when I am angry). Is it right? " so I got to answer "Yes". 
Now think of it, my behaviour causes him problem so I need to change but his behaviour is ok because it is natural behaviour of human being???

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