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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, your options are not limited to "stay in affectionless marriage forever" or "leave when the kids move away for college."

Of course they will still be upset when their parents divorce. Kids care about their parents' happiness and I doubt an adult child will say "Yes, Dad, I'm glad you spend my childhood being miserable because you thought that's what was best for me."

Your wife's answer of "I'll work on it, but suck it up" is not acceptable either. You deserve better than that. Counseling, for you both. Evaluation of your lifestyle and what changes to it could be made so that you both get more out of it. If the answer is "nothing can be done about it", then start preparing to separate now. Waiting until the kids leave for college places way too much responsibility for your happiness on your children, and that is not fair.[/quote]

So basically, SHE has to do all the changing and it has to be his way of nothing? Or else she gets blackmailed into divorce?  Hmmm... Not exactly seeing how that's fair or very mature....[/quote]

I'm not OP, but I don't think this is blackmail. It's just reality. It's a deal breaker for a lot of people to be in a marriage without sex. When you are miserable and suffering and depressed and lonely because your marriage is sexless, you are left with the choices of: 1) suffer; 2) divorce; or 3) cheat.

Trying to address the issue with a spouse is the adult thing to do. Telling the spouse what is on the line (ie. the marriage) is also adult. It's not blackmail; it's a statement of fact: this gets better or we're going to break up. [/quote]

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