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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was in your situation and chose to go to an OB/Gyn practice who saw many "religious" women (not nuns, just lots of very conservative catholics and the like).  My experience was very positive.  I was honest about it being my first exam and never having any sexual partners.  The NP was very kind and undestanding and didn't look at me like I was some strange anomoly.   I would recommend them without reservation.  I drive 45 minutes for my appointment because i love them so much.  The practice is Tepeyac Family Center.  [/quote]

This.  Quite honestly OP, despite all of the people saying GYN's won't bat an eye, I was in your situation.  I initially went to Kaiser and the GYN treated me like I was a freak and hurt me.  IE spoken with a tone of total incredulity "YOUR 30 years OLD AND YOU"VE NEVeR HAD A GYN EXAM BEFORE:

I switched to Tepeyac. Much better.  I love them.
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This. While I agree that this SHOULD not be a big deal and people SHOULD be sensitive etc., the reality is that people -- even drs. and nurses aren't always kind. I have definitely been to people who I think may not say anything to OP but would have a "yeah you're a virgin, right" reaction or generally be surly with OP esp. if she's in pain, flinching etc. -- anything that adds to how much time they need to spend. I have an Indian friend (who moved here from India), never went to a GYN because it isn't done there until you're pregnant, got pregnant and went to an OB-GYN, was asked when her last exam/pap was, said "never," and the nurse acted like she was some kind of circus freak with the whole "you're 35 and have NEVER had an exam . . . ."

OP I have a feeling these are the reactions you're scared of, and I think the PP above is being honest -- there are GYNs in the big practices, who will act like this or their staff will. I don't say that to scare you, but I say it to emphasize that you pick the right dr. Go for a female who has an excellent reputation for beside manner. If you don't want to ask people you know, look at things like zocdoc or yelp and go for the ones people are complimenting for being kind and caring and stay away from the ones that are being touted for their efficiency or short wait times. Honestly I think a small practice with a female GYN will be much better for you than an industrial practice like Kaiser that just wants people in and out every 15 min and is not going to be pleased if they need to ask you to take a breath a few times to relax.[/quote]

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