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[quote=Anonymous]I really enjoy my parents and spending time with them.  They're a little, umm, quirky, and more so as they age but they're people I enjoy speaking to.  We don't see the world in the same way but that's OK.  
My mom has become more and more conservative as she's aged and has gone from a registered Dem, to an Indpendent, to a Rep, to a Tea Partier though I'm not really sure her heart's in it.  My mother called all five of her children and proudly proclaimed she was a Tea Bagger and I was the only one brave enough to tell her not to use that term and why.  Now she just laughs and says she joined the Tea Party and leaves the bagger out of it. Lol.

My mom's funny, social and adventurous and always has a full calender.  She volunteers several days a week, belongs to several committees, and plays Bunco with housewives half her age.  Her church friends are all older than she is and they aren't lively enough for her.

My mom drives me crazy when it comes to things like her health.  She smoked for 50 years, has type 2 diabetes and is really overweight.  She once told me she weighed 260 so I figure it's closer to 300.  She's had 5 small heart attacks over the last 20 years, several angioplasties, and recently was suffering from congestive heart failure, all of which she has either lied about, asked a child to lie about or brushed under the rug.  She swore me to secrecy with the first two heart attacks because she was afraid my sister wouldn't let her watch the new baby if she knew about them.  I was a teenager so I went with it.  She is also accident prone and seems to fall or walk into things and break her toes fairly often.  In the last five years she's broken probably a dozen bones including one fall where she broke both arms.

She was also the woman who took care of all 5 of us, alone, when we all got chicken pox.  5 kids ranging from ages 5-15 and they all had the pox and she was supposed to be using that time to prepare to move house because my dad started a new job 1500 miles away.   When we all recovered we did a 10 day road trip to visit family, friends, and areas my mother hadn't seen in the five years.  I remember much of that trip vividly as my mom would do a deep southern accent when asking for directions because it embarrassed my teen aged siblings and it made the younger 3 kids laugh.

My mom is always supportive and gives great, grounded, advice even when it's not what you want to hear.

It's nice because my mom's not necessarily the type of person I'd choose to be my friend but I'm so glad that during my adulthood we've been able to become friends.  She wasn't my friend growing up and I really think that's part of the secret to our relationship.  [/quote]

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