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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think I have a healthy relationship with my mother that has grown stronger since I became a mother, but I don't know that she is someone I would hang out with if she wasn't my mom.  She is wonderful and was such a good mom to us growing up as kids, but she is also a lot to deal with!  She clearly has ADD and is on the go all the time.  I mean when she comes to visit I have to plan a list of tasks because she will have done more before 9 am than I normally accomplish in an entire weekend and will be bored / antsy (and highly annoying).  She is simultaneously very self-absorbed and not at all self-aware, which is an interesting combo.  She talks to everyone, everywhere, all the time.  She gets bored with just me/DH/DD and wants us to invite friends, neighbors, anyone really over.  She acts at least 20 years younger than her actual age.  When she leaves we all need a nap.  But, we love her - crazy quirks and all.  Do I wish she was the kind of mom that I could call and ask for advice without her either getting distracted or turning it into something about her?  Yes.  But she isn't, and I have to accept that.  I don't think you have to be BFFs with your mom to have a normal, healthy relationship, but if that's what you're hoping for, you might be setting the bar too high.  Try to accept your mom for who she is and find some common ground.  Once you do, try to focus your interactions on that commonality as much as possible.  Maybe you'll start to feel more bonded to her and it will be easier to handle some of her crazy sh*t.[/quote]

This could be my sibling's description of our mother!  Not mine, though - our personalities clash much more, and I don't really have a good relationship with her.[/quote]

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