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[quote=Anonymous]I'm the stereotypical overachieving, type a oldest child. Younger sibling struggled through major drug and alcohol problems, even disappearing for a while. Parents are very loving but huge enablers. Sibling went to rehab and got married shortly thereafter, then had my two nephews. I don't think any real problems were ever addressed, my parents provide full-time childcare, and the cycle continues. Like another PP said, I'm now witnessing bad financial, career, and parenting decisions and feel helpless about it. Saying anything just provokes an outburst. The best thing I ever did was move away from my family and set big boundaries. I love them very much and we have great memories together, but the tough times we went through with my sibling and the fact that sibling is still the center of everything in the family (job drama, money drama, kid drama) makes it very hard to be around them.

OP, I will say that the one time I felt I got through to my sibling was when I sent a long, heartfelt letter to rehab. The response - apologizing for what we went through and expressing love - is something I really hold to when times are tough and I feel resentful.[/quote]

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