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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am 9 years older than my sister. When she wanted to get married at 19, even though hes a great guy, I tried to give her reaons to wait. I didnt actively tell her not to do it but I certainly offered unsolicited advice.  In the end, they got married and are doing great with a beautiful family.  I think she missed out on her college years and now has some regrets about that, but ultimately, she is very happy and living the right life for her.

If you are close with your sibling and they trust you, offer advice without being judgmental.  If the relationship has always been contentious, dont bother. If you are willing to be a supposrt, say "I think you might be better off if you did x instead of y, but you are my sister and I'll always be here for you."[/quote]

OP here. Yes, I'm just trying to figure out how to say everything without telling my sibling what to do or making a future relationship more strained.[/quote]

OP, I would suggest you look into your life first and then make your suggestions. I'm the youngest sibling and so is my husband. Our older sibling have tried to give us advice, but honestly we have proven that we can actually make better decisions than them. I appreciate that they care enough to gee "advice," but based on what I have seen them do, I would never take their advice seriously. If I needed their advice I would directly seek it out. [/quote]

Maybe instead of giving advice, I should simply voice my concerns. But then I feel like I would just be causing problems, not helping.[/quote]

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