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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I truly truly cannot stand being around her, but I don't want to come off as rude when I have to be around her. I find myself having to affix a permanent smile on my face just so I don't roll my eyes at everything she says. Maybe I should feel sorry for her because she's probably very insecure. I just really need to rant. Some recent examples:

-Told her and a group of friends about the recent international trip that DH and I took. Her response: "I haven't been able to leave the country in 10 years, so I can't relate to this conversation. Next topic."
-Listening to a mutual friend talk about the new relationship she is in. Her response: "If you are talking about a new boyfriend, I don't want to hear it." And then she actually walked away from us.
-Her younger sister recently met a guy and it's serious. Her response: "It's unfair. We were supposed to be single together."
-She often refers to herself by talking in third person. "Mary is tired. Mary is sleepy."
-At a sports bar this weekend, I watched her go into the middle of the room and do cheerleading moves....like clapping her hands and leg kicks.
-I was talking to a professional colleague with whom she has no personal or professional relationship. She happened to be at the same venue. She walked over mid conversation and said, "Hey! I'd like to join the ladies who lunch group!" It was embarrassing.
-Every time we are in a car together, she points out apartments of guys with whom she has hooked up. Driving down H St..."Hey that's Mike's Apt." Driving down M St..."That's where Harry lives."
-[b]She talks about people having marriage problems and her opinions on whether they will make it. She is not married.
-She talks about people's readiness for children.  Heard her the other day speculate on whether her friend can handle a second child. She is childless.[/b]

I'm sorry if this all sounds petty, but I had to spend the entire weekend with her and I just really  needed to rant. 
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So because she is single, she's not allowed to express an opinion about other people?  You don't have to be married to recognize a couple that likely isn't going to work out.  And you certainly don't have to have children to recognize that other people are either (a) unready or (b) having kids for the wrong reasons.

A lot of the other comments you mention could just be her sense of humor.  I know someone who says things like that, but she is always joking.  She has a dry way of delivery, so sometimes it's hard to tell she's joking.

But if you don't like her or like being around her, then limit the time you spend with her.  Nothing you mention sounds particularly egregious.  It's not like she's undermining you in some way.  It's not like she's trying to come between you and your husband.  It's not like she's doing anything to you.  [/quote]

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