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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not the mother of a teen Mom (thank goodness), but I had my first child at 15.

How responsible is she in general? If she is a good mother, I would allow the dance. Being a mother does not have to equal social isolation. I would allow maybe one outing a week, with reasonable expectations on when to come home. No school night outings (is she in school?), unless it is school related (football game, homecoming, etc).

Is she still involved with the child's father? [/quote]

Also very helpful! What is reasonable curfew for a 15 yo [b]teen mom[/b] on a non school night?

Ny limitation on what the activity should be?[/quote]

You need to separate these. She's a teenager AND a mother, not JUST a "teen mom." You shouldn't have been allowed to take in a teenager if you don't know how to parent one. FWIW, I was a teen mom and have teenagers now. My teens don't have some random curfew. Each time they want to go somewhere we discuss the details, and based on those, we come to an agreement on when the activity ends. I don't just send her out into the world saying "Do whatever you want and as long as you're home by 11 it's all good." Hell no. If you're 15 and going to an 8pm movie that's 90 minutes and then want to go to the diner a block away, THEN yes I'll pick you up at the diner at 11.

Are you letting her have friends over? For most teens, their friends are more important than their family, and considering you're not even her family her friends are probably even more important to her than the average teen not in foster care. Is the baby's father spending time with her or the baby?  FWIW, I'd wait for her to be cleared by her doctor to dance, and if she's allowed to attend the dance per the school, then give her three hours. And I'd definitely let her do activities that are legit and/or with decent friends 2-3 times a week. [/quote]

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