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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just felt a little depressed and tired today as I thought about it. I'm social, outgoing and emotionally healthy (enough), as are many of my friends. But over the course of time you start to realize that no matter how much love exists between you and your friends, and how positive and drama free your relationship is, and how much effort you put into the friendship, some things never change.

Your friend is still a flawed human being no matter how awesome they are. Still lack sufficient self love to stop themselves from comparing themselves to you, still have insecurities no matter how balanced and confident and mature they seem, still capable of secretly getting jealous of you. No one wants to admit it but sometimes it is [b]your best friend who hates to see you succeed far beyond their own success.[/b]

And friends are complex humans. They have issues from childhood to deal with, romantic problems, and other social or professional issues that all influence their attitude towards you.

It's condyantly a game. You can trust your close friends but you can't trust them with EVERY vulnerability in your life can you? You have to protect yourself and maintain some semblance of strength to keep their respect even as you show vulnerability. [b]It's complicated and often exhausting.[/quote][/b]

I have to strongly [u]disagree[/u] w/the two bolded statements OP. I have a best friend who I have had in my life since high school, we are both now in our mid-40's and have been through [u]everything[/u] under the sun together. You name it. Nothing would make me more happier in life than for her to have all the happiness that I personally think she deserves. I would never [i]EVER[/i] in a trillion years be envious over anything that she would ever have over me...In fact, the opposite. I want only the best for her and I am sure she feels exactly the same way.

I also have to disagree that friendships are complicated as well as exhausting. Perhaps in high school they were, but now as an adult I find them quite beneficial to my life in many ways. I do not feel like maintaining my friendships takes "work" and effort like maintaining a healthy marriage does.

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