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[quote=Anonymous]I think in many cultures, feeding the children is a common thing to persist on - spoon feeding well beyond when the kid can self feed, always insisting on other serving after the kid is full from the first plate. It's common and comes from a different time & context.

The sock & jacket thing - eh, I find that grandparents want to fawn over and fret over little things like that with grandkids. It's a way for them to feel like a caretaker even though they're not doing the day to day caretaking. I bite my tongue with most of it if it's not upsetting my kid. When there's too much of it, my kid starts regressing, claiming she "can't" do things for herself that she certainly can do and do well when grandma isn't there. At that point, I ask my mom or MIL (they both do it) to let DD exercise a bit more independence and suggest other ways they can spoil her with attention that don't infantilize her.

If there's a special issue we're working on that requires not deviating from the routine (and I try to have only 1-2 special items like this at a time), then I let them know as soon as they arrive for their visit. My DD has had some eating issues, wasn't growing, and we just now found a happy medium in which she eats & is growing again, so the grandma's are happy to not rock the boat in that regard, but wouldn't have known if I hadn't given them a headsup. [/quote]

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