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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So get divorced.  These posts are so stupid.  "He shoved me. He's a jerk.  He's always been tough to live with but now he's getting worse.  What do I do?!"  Is the answer really not obvious?[/quote]

Obviously not. We have a small son and divorce would be difficult on many levels. I think most people understand the desire to avoid divorce if possible. [/quote]

Ah makes sense. I agree it's so much better to live with someone who pushes you and who you admit is an extremely difficult person to live with.  You guys are excellent role models for your son.  Glad you are getting some therapy for yourself at least. Sounds like you need it. [/quote]

You are seriously clueless. [/quote]

I [b]don't get people who reflexively say "divorce" as if it's so easy with a child.  you realize that the father would likely get 50/50 custody.  The mother goes from being in her son's life 100% of the time to 50% of the time, with no knowledge or influence over what happens in that 50% of the time.  None.  That is not an easy decision to make, nor one that might be in the best interest of the child. [/b] [/quote]

This, times just hundreds of thousands. How do people not get this? My dad was a good dad but a difficult, hard to get along with person, and being alone with him 50% of the time would have been Hell. My mom knew this and protected us from that -- she was a buffer. We needed her. Staying "just" for the kids is not quite the stupid thing so many of you seem to believe it is. Your three year old doesn't care if you follow your bliss and live a life free of marital stress, no matter what you tell yourself. Barring abuse, which is indeed a deal breaker OP, mental or physical, addictions, money abuse, etc., I believe parents have a duty and an obligation to work it out. It simply isn't about you. Could you leave your child alone with this person knowing how he would be treating him about drop off? who could? seriously? And the trend is indeed 50% custody. It places women married to lackluster fathers over a barrel. It really does. [/quote]

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