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[quote=Anonymous]OP - I had a pretty intense ~1.5 year relationship with someone who just - quite literally - disappeared on me.  It really tore me up and as others have said, it clobbers your self esteem.

Also as others have said: there is no "closure".  There is no magic set of words that "moral character" (whatever that vague term is supposed to mean) can deliver to change the reality that someone you cared for very deeply has completely rejected you.  There is no way for them to deliver that message, and somehow make it "OK" - make the heartbreak and hurt go away.

What you can do is move along and find some one new.  I have found that with time and distance, I realize that person wasn't as amazing as I made them out to be, nor was I nearly as happy in the relationship as I thought I was.  You start to see that other person as the real, flawed human being they are (as we all are), and you lose the feelings you once had.  Time is the only cure.

All I can tell you is that I obsessed over her for far far too long, kind of tried to keep track of where she was and what she was doing in general (not stalking), and that keeping track kept it alive in my mind for far too long.  Now I think about it, and I can't imagine we'd be very happy together, and I'm honestly relieved.  Time is the only cure.[/quote]

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