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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My folks don't want to leave their house (mid 80s) but I really want them to move to one of those transitional communities (condos, medical care and ultimately assisted living). They are healthy now but we worry and would feel better knowing that if something happens, the safety net is there.  My DH and I are way too busy to sort through all the options of places and any recommendation coming from us is too fraught with emotion. Is there a service that will help talk them through options, financial, emotional, physical etc and make a recommendation?[/quote]

How close are they to you, physically?  My parents decided to age in place and when my mother was sick early this year she stayed in the house until 24 before her death.  She died in hospice.  She was able to die as she planned and with dignity.  She was 84.  She loved the view out her window and she was visited everyday by her friends and neighbors.   Moving to an assisted living facility separates people from their lives and loved ones and they have to start over meeting people- who are all old and relatively feeble (which is why they are in assisted living).   IME, it tends to hasten death.

How long have they lived in their house and neighborhood?  Do they have a large set of friends?  Are they active in clubs and/or a house of worship? Do they go to activities at the local senior center?

I would start with the Council on Aging to see what services are available to them in home.  [/quote]

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