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[quote=Anonymous]I guess what I want him to do is to at least tell me why it suddenly changed b/c I think I at least deserve that. Then, whatever the issue is, maybe I can help him work on it b/c he clearly liked it before. It's not like he doesn't & I'm just trying to force him. Something must've happened that caused him to be uncomfortable again. I started thinking more about it & I'm wondering if it has something to do with his upbringing b/c he was constantly having church/religion shoved down his throat & told that sex was "bad". Maybe he started feeling guilty? Sounds like the most probable culprit to me so far. But he (enthusiastically) participate for a long time, so why would he suddenly have guilt? He won't talk about it so idk if that's even it, or if it is, what caused the sudden regression. He's not at all religious, he got away from it as soon as he could. And I understand how that is b/c I was a preacher's daughter. I was constantly told it was "bad" too. I know people have different ways of getting over issues, and some just can't, but then why would it have gone on for a year & a half if he wasn't able to get past something like that? Make sense? I'm just feeling very shut out & don't know what else to do. I've been sensitive & gentle about it b/c I don't want him to feel pressured. If he's not really into it then it's not enjoyable to me either. People here are basically saying he just doesn't like it, or vanilla is just what he is, but I know that's not true. Something just got in the way. And to the last poster, I'm very sorry that you're dealing with the same issue. It sucks & is more than a little confusing & frustrating when you need something for a long time, are patient (as hard as it can sometimes be), finally get it, & then it's suddenly & inexplicably taken away again. I do want to thank you for posting your situation though. No one thinks it's a big deal (probably b/c they've never dealt w it) & that I'm just being a bitch, so it was really starting to feel like I was the only one to've experienced this. It is rather uncommon I guess, but being that sex is really important in a relationship it's tough when you aren't getting fulfilled at all & they just get to have sex the way THEY want it forever. I like and agree with what you said about meeting halfway. That'd be fine with me. Seriously did not expect the backlash I got for this & can't for the life of me understand why, but thank you both for trying to be helpful. Regarding your wife, do you think it might be possible that she's got the hang up I am suspecting my husband has? Religion is even tougher on women in the sex department. If you're not conservative then you're a harlot or something. Idk what to tell you since I'm stuck in the same situation as far as having it & it suddenly stopping, so obviously I don't know how to fix it, but hopefully that's something you hadn't thought of yet that might be help you help her...[/quote]

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