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[quote=Anonymous]Beyond the "you won't care" -- which is completely true but hard for a FTM to believe, I think the analogy is this -- when you had the EKG, the cardiologist walked in, saw that you were somewhat undressed/the nurse wasn't done, and just started talking anyway. He wasn't phased by seeing breasts because he sees them on 50% of his patients and didn't see that as a reason to act uncomfortable, leave the room, look away etc. as that would make you more self conscious.

Same for OBs, OB nurses, pediatrics, and generally anyone who is around labor and delivery -- they see vaginas all day every day, they are used to women screaming, being in pain, acting irrational due to pain/fear etc. and they handle it matter of factly. They aren't going to call you out or do or say something to make you feel self conscious about what is a normal process that they see like 10x a day.  And frankly they also want you to get the baby out safely. If you're a woman who makes noise or who needs to pace without an epidural or bounce on a ball or whatever -- they want you to do that within reason if that helps you get the baby out safely; they don't want you diverting your attention with "Dr. Smith thinks I'm lame bc I'm screaming, I have to force myself to stop" when you could be using your energy on pushing.[/quote]

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