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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here. Thanks for the ideas! I am not clear on the rules regarding parental debt.  In Pennsylvania, where she resides, they do have those laws. I am not clear on whether the fact we do not live in the state even matters. That is my primary concern. We keep her at arms length, and every time we reestablish a more regular contact, it it s problem and we regret within weeks.

I could totally see her applying for credit using our social security numbers. She still will sometimes claim my wife, who is approaching 40, as a dependent on her taxes. She basically defrauds an alarming % of companies she comes into contact with, and unfortunately... she is a lawyer. Ugh. It is not fun. She is pretty good at creating ridiculous paper trails and just making such a mess that takes a long time to unravel. My wife doesn't want to invite her places b/c she is afraid she will "accidentally" slip and then sue the other relative, store, etc.

We wish we could get a restraining order of a type, honestly.

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I have posted here about having a parent in PA die. You are not responsible for their debt. PA has filial support laws which are related to healthcare, not consumer debt.
Most places, it is not worth it to come after you. Your primary concern is fraud.  
You cannot be held responsible to her debt -- get LifeLock and any other fraud protection possible for your credit. Best of luck.[/quote]

I am especially concerned about healthcare though. She is sickly and has a lot of surgeries requiring a lot of rehab. At some point she might do assisted living. She is a schizophrenic, and last time she had these surgeries she was hallucinating and imagining conversations with doctors. They could have put her in the psych ward right then. My fear is that something like this will happen again, and she will be put into assisted living. No one wants to take care of her, she is a nightmare.

Did you ever speak to a lawyer? What kind of lawyer should we look for? [/quote]
I talked to an estate attorney, remember I was dealing with the affairs of a deceased person.
Look, it is highly unlikely anyone, nursing home or otherwise is coming after you. Best way to deter that is to not deal with them, PERIOD.
If she gets sent to a facility, don't show up, don't fill out forms, don't give out your info. Get your credit protections and try to relax. People cannot legally come after you because if fraud someone you are related to committed.[/quote]

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