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[quote=Anonymous]This is 15:42 posting again.  My initial response to your ILs condemnation of you speaking your native language to your child and your parents in your own home was anger.  Hours later I am still pissed for you.  I speak only English, but were my spouse a native speaker of another language, you bet your bippy that he would speak that language to our children.  If my mother or father had anything to say about it, I would tell them to STFU.  Being a native speaker of two languages is *such* a gift and a tremendous advantage that I know I would be really territorial over it.

I know that it can be perceived as rude for people to speak in another language in front of others who don't speak the same language.  However, I would think that your FIL would be aware that your mom doesn't speak English so you must speak with her in your language and that it may be easier for your dad to converse with you in your native language.  That issue really won't come up unless they are all together with you for some reason and frankly it is all the more reason to keep them separate.  Your ILs are local now so when your parents travel to visit you, focus on your parents.  "Thanks for the offer, Martin, but my parents will be in town for two weeks so we won't be able to come to the BBQ.  My parents will be uncomfortable around you since you object to us speaking in our native language when they are here and they don't speak any other language.  We will make plans for an afternoon after they leave."[/quote]

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