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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  There are consequences in the form of no electronics/screentime, as well as others consequences. [b] Tying it to extracurriculars isn't something that we would do -- the extracurriculars are great for his self-esteem and are things in which he really excels and which demand commitment.[/b]  Our own thoughts at this point, confirmed by some of the responses here, are that this indeed is a behavioral problem - just not clear (yet) if it's tied into a bigger mental health problem.

We agree that the behavior is unacceptable and, as I posted earlier, the expectations that are set re agenda review aren't just our expectations but those of school -- and would be those of a special needs school as well, based on what we saw/heard when we toured some of the schools last year.  Nor are the expectations unreasonable.[/quote]

I'm sorry to say this but you are reinforcing your DS's negative behavior.  It's clear the current consequences (electronic/screentime, etc.) aren't meaningful to him.  Yet, you won't touch something that is meaningful to him. Why should he change? This is[b] discipline 101[/b].  This is not part of a bigger mental health issue.  [/quote]

No it's not.

OP, I think your ADHD kid is responding with anxiety.  He's working himself up over something so basic.  In the example you gave, he probably feels embarrassed that he mixed up assignments not working on the one due sooner.  But did he get any positive feedback on the effort he put into the other assignment?

Speak with his teacher and let him know the trouble you're having.  The system of checking his agenda is to help him learn organizational skills.  Suggest that the teacher needs to explain to him that you need to sign and date the agenda every school day.  And check in with him daily that this has been done (at least in the short term).

Personally, I think you're going to get more with a carrot than a stick. He's already not doing what he's supposed to be doing.  Taking away additional privileges isn't going to help and make him feel more defeated.

Read about positive reinforcement.  The Kazdin Method is good.
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