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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Somehow, you kid isn't owning the problem . . . [/quote]

OP here - I see your point and disagree at the same time.  There's no particular mold that we're trying to hammer him into - these are basic expectations. . . Moreover, they're not just our expectations - they're school's expectations as well.  And having visited privates for kids with LD's last year (and DS actually spent part of a day at one), they have the same expectations.  Keep an agenda.  Go through it with your family.  Let people work with you to prioritize what needs to be done. . .[/quote]

Different PP here.  OP, it sounds like you are maintaining a lot of control here and that could be part of the problem.  By sixth grade, do you have to physically go through the agenda with him or can you let him have control of telling you what's in it.  Can't you let him prioritize, make mistakes and then help him put things back together?  You say in a later post that your son takes no responsibility but always blames you.  Well, if you aren't giving him control and letting him make mistakes then maybe he has a point.

As I said earlier, I took a very different approach than many parents in my shoes and gradually turned over responsibility to my son starting in third grade.  There have been plenty of times where he made decisions that are not what I would have made.  There are times when I've gone to bed before my son got his work done because it took longer than he anticipated.  There are times when I got him up at 5 am with me to redo work because his product was not acceptable.  There are times when my son had to spend all weekend reading a book and was not able to play with friends because he started too late on the required reading.  But, as time has gone on, he's learned about himself, which in turn, results in better decisions on his part.   [/quote]

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