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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Resisted calling them mom and dad because I have my own parents, thank you very much.  [/quote]

I've never really understood this concept.  We say that we don't love one child more than another, that [b]we have enough love to spread around for all of our children, but we don't have enough love to spread to other parents? [/b] My MIL may not be my mother, but she raised and cared for the person I care the most about in the world and for that I will cherish her and value her and love her.  Loving my MIL in no way diminishes my love for my own mother or replaces my own mother anymore than having a second child diminished or replaced my love for my first child.

Why do so many people feel that there can only be one mother?  Many people have more than one mother, whether a birth/adoptive mother, a birth/step mother or two mothers in a same-sex marriage.  Context means everything and good/bad interactions with those people can determine and unequal relationships (a stepmother who treats her stepchildren poorly or a birth mother who was abusive, etc), but if the new person treats you well, why so much resistence to calling the parent of your spouse, the person who raised the person you love, mother?[/quote]

My children are all related to me directly.  My ILs are my DH's parents.  I do not love them as I love my parents, and never will.  It's not about diminishing the love I have for my own mother.  It's about the difference in the relationship.

Also, while some people have more than one mother (birth mother vs. adoptive mother, mother vs. stepmother), in general people relate to only one of those women as Mother.  Mother is by definition a singular role.[/quote]

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