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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]For the floors, buy a Roomba and run it every night after you go to bed. (It seriously works!)

For the dishes, buy paper plates. Honestly, my SIL used to go nuts with all the dirty dishes her ADHD DH and DS left lying around. Paper plates saved her marriage.

Then, let it go. You're holding onto a standard you could enforce, but that isn't as important to your DH. It's not a battle worth fighting.[/quote]

+1.  I'm the messy one and my husband knew this going in.  Nagging isn't ever going to make me as neat as him, it would only cause a rift.  There are three things that keep me from going to the extreme. One, my mom is even worse and I know if it gets to that level we are going to counseling.  The second thing is I realize one reason I am not in top of it is that I never learned good habits growing up.  Although my parents argued about cleaning, we never actually had routines built into our daily living.  I realize my bad habits are being passed on to the kids.  When out kids are going to start washing dishes, is the routine going to be before tv goes on, dishes are washed?  If so, we have to model what we pass on.  Sweeping every day is not gonna happen but setting a roomba after dishes while watching a tv show or sweeping Wednesday and Sunday and alternating the person, is possible.  The third things is a I don't like bugs.  We have a quarterly pest control service and while this doesn't make me anal about cleaning, I won't let it get to obvious bug food levels.

Anyway, appreciate everything that is going well and realize that the cleaning from your spouse will never be at the same level as you want.  if you have a talk, I would frame it as what would be workable for him I.e. Paper plates, he does dishes but it will be in the morning not after dinner, certain days you commit to doing the dishes (even with your schedule) and he does them the other days. Delve a little and see where he is coming from, how was it when he was growing up.   Try to find some middle ground.

Good luck[/quote]

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