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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am still best friends with my friends from high school and I am in my mid-30s.  I think it's normal for friendships to fade but if you have a history of friendship break-ups, I think something else might be going on.[/quote]

When you say best friends with your high school friends, what does that mean exactly?
- Do you still confide in each other about every aspect of your lives? Is there any part of your life that they don't know about?
- Have you all matured and grown in the same direction since you were teenagers? Really? High school sweethearts don't last precisely because people change as they become adults - it's usually the same with friendships too.
- Do you still have a lot in your present that you have in common, or is it more a friendship based on a shared history?[/quote]

I"m thinking of 3 different women who are all my best friends from high school (one didn't go to my high school but we've been friends since 5th grade).  
To answer your first question:
--1.  Yes, we talk just about everyday.  She is married to my DH's close friend and they live 15 minutes from us, and she literally knows everything about me.  2.  We talk about once a month but text a lot. She doesn't know the everyday details of my life but there is absolutely nothing important that she doesn't know.  3.  We talk about once a month and there's nothing I wouldn't tell her, but there are some things I don't think she always understands anymore.

Second question 
--1 and 2.  We really have pretty much grown in the same direction.  SImilar careers, similar-aged kids, similar parenting styles, and our DHs are close friends.  We're not identical but the differences we have are not so great that we can't relate to each other.  3.  Sort of, but not exactly.  She's chosen to live in a community that is somewhat different than what I've chosen, and while we resepct each other I think we both think we could never live where the other one lives.

Third question:  For all three, I think we do have a lot in our present that we have in common.  ONe of them lives close by and the other two we vacation with and spend weekends with 3-4 times a year.  OUr kids adore each other.  It's very fun.

I have plenty of newer friends too but there is soemthing about someone who has known you forever that feels really good.  On the other hand, I do think they sometimes don't acknowledge how much I've changed, and sometimes we bicker like sisters.  In fact, I'd say these relationships are closer to family relationships than friendships at this point.  Perhaps that's why they have lasted so long, more like sibling relationships do, despite how much we all change and grow.

You seem to not believe this is possible or healthy b/c it hasn't happened to you, OP, but everyone's experiences are different.  I've made and lost plenty of friends over the years as well.  [/quote]

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